Wednesday, 28 October 2009
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How To Lose A Guy In (Less Than) Ten Days
Pretty much every attractive girl I know has had that one guy she'd never date end up wanting to date her (note: I'm not necessarily talking about me here).
Not to say girls are stupid, but really, it isn't that hard to get a guy to leave you alone (most of the time). And seeing as how I've actually had requests for a post like this at least three or four times (which is awesome - I love it when people want something specific), I thought I'd go ahead and get it out. Without further delay...
How To Lose A Guy In (Less Than) Ten Days
Note: I've never seen the movie, just so you know in case I end up copying anything without knowing it.
# 10: Don't be nice to him just because you like the attention.
I'll be honest here: most (meaning almost all) guys are stupid when it comes to women. If you smile at him, sometimes he'll go, "holy crap she likes me!" So, keep yourself in check when you're around a guy who likes you that you're not interested in. And obviously, you shouldn't tell him a lot about yourself if you don't want him to like you.
# 9: Talk about "Twilight" all the time.
Fact: 99% of straight men hate Twilight. Trust me.
# 8: Buy a freakin' taser.
YEAH.
Tasers are freakin' awesome. If he won't leave you alone and he tries to get physical, tase him good (only in self defense; otherwise, just tell him you own a Taser. You don't want to go to court with the excuse, "but he likes me!").
# 7: Be the opposite of his type.
If he likes the city-barbie type, then even if that's where your roots are, try to be a little different around him.
Although, if he doesn't have a type, then you're just screwed.
# 6: Make sure your friends know you don't like him.
It's hard to get away from someone when you and your friends are pulling in opposite directions. Most of the time, your friends and family know you well enough to know when someone is a good match for you, but if you're not feeling it, make sure to point out said mismatch.
# 5: Don't let him know you have a cellphone.
If a guy notices you using a cell phone and he likes you, chances are he'll ask for your number. DON'T GIVE HIM YOUR NUMBER BECAUSE YOU FEEL SORRY FOR HIM. I mean, c'mon.
Also, sometimes a guy may ask to borrow your phone, in which case, if you can do it without being rude, if he doesn't know you have a phone, either tell him you don't have one, you're out of minutes, or just give him change for a payphone. He could be one of those weird guys who puts his # in your contacts or drafts folder so you'll be sure to see it and call, because you probably won't remember how it got there and you'll call it.
# 4: Avoid a situation where you'd be alone with him.
If you're alone with him, he's going to want to talk to you, and that'll make things awkward for you if you don't like him if he wasn't already one of your friends. Make yourself look busy doing something.
# 3: Be sure not to "accidentally" flirt with him.
Guys can take a lot of things the wrong way, including body language. This is especially true if he doesn't have much experience with girls (or he's just hardheaded).
# 2: Have an EBF (Emergency BoyFriend).
If you're single and a guy likes you, having one of your male friends (who doesn't like you) pretend to be your boyfriend around the guy you don't like is always a nice option. Yes, EBFs are such old news, but it works.
If you actually have a boyfriend, then obviously you don't need an EBF, because your boyfriend will probably beat the guy to a pulp for getting on your nerves.
# 1: Be assertive and specific.
If you decide to just come out and tell a guy you don't like him, be serious. Make it known that you don't ever want to date him. Don't say, "I just don't like you like that" or "I don't want a boyfriend right now or "you're a great guy, but..." because he'll keep trying if you let him.
Some guys are easy to discourage when it comes to women, they just need a few reasons to move on. Don't be a downright a-hole because it could come back to bite you someday, like if you like one of his good friends and the guy you didn't like told the other guy everything you did to him, so there goes your chance with the other guy. Yeah.
If someone is downright stalker-ish with you, get a restraining order, seriously.
Have you ever had a problem with someone who was determined to date you?
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Yeah! I did-- long ago, and a few years later, I found out through someone else that he was gay?! yeah, it was weird. Like, this guy WOULD NOT leave me alone, always asking me to go to lunch, and whatever, but I guess we were both immature so I'm not surprised now.
This is great advice, and I've had too many of those persistent guys coming after me... I still feel bad though, which is why I continue to be nice. I do make it clear to them that I only like them as friends, however. And they understand that. Though they do still slip out flirtatious lines from time to time, even if they don't necessarily mean anything by it. They know that I am not interested, and that their lines won't have any effect on me except maybe me finding it flattering.
Other than that... I can never be mean to a guy, just cuz I don't like him back. :( I can't help it! I don't string em along though, so hopefully, that's what counts. :)
Argh, sadly, I have, and I felt horrible about it because at the time, I was single, I just didn't like him.. He kept saying things like "Well, you're single right now and your Facebook status said you were lonely..." I wanted to rip my [or his] hair out.
I just don't talk to them period. Btw I own a taser.
Tell him you love him and want to have his babies
8. is a great idea. lol
but what if I like to be tasered? haha seriously though, a rather good list.
Yes. Having an EBF helped a lot; now I have a real BF (same guy, ironically) and creepy dude is still pretty dogged. I think he's just one of those guys who doesn't know when to call it quits?
Yeah. About 3 yrs ago a guy that went to my skool kept tryin to get me to hangout with everyone else(i was a lone wolf) and did things i liked. It was my mistake thinkin he was just a nice guy.Ugh then he kept passing by my house and sat on my gate(has flatparts where u can sit its pretty easy to get on) and my family kept on annoying me with the Boyfriend thing( ur boyfriends outside!) Worst year of my life........ugh....
All I need is a taser. Screw everything else.
This happened to me tonight. Sooo damn helpful! Hope I can get him to unlike me now!
@northernskylights - You are my hero!
they invented a taser phone. lol.
Nick...this is why we're tight like that. You are so much smarter than some people out there :]
@AnamcharaConcepts - Hahaha the taser was a gift from my overly protective father. It's legal to carry it here.
I must admit, I've pulled #4, the whole avoidance thing, more than once. I probably should have done a bit of avoiding in high school when I didn't, but I've learned since then.
@Roadlesstaken - Haha. Who doesn't like a little bit of a jolt every now and then?
So in other words, guys don't take hints well, you must be blunt and consistent. Huh. Good advice!
@elelkewljay - They invented a taser phone?!?
@northernskylights - Nice dad! I'll bet you let guys know you have it too
Oh the taser. I actually went on a date with a guy that showed me his taser wand after dinner. Strange....
"but he likes me!!!" as an excuse can work... sometimes... LOL
Welcome back Nick!!!! eHug =oP
@AnamcharaConcepts - Most of the time, since I have a generous heart. I let them experience it.
@AnamcharaConcepts - yeah. except it's like $1000 and is a one time use if you use the taser function. it doesn't quite recover from its burned fuse. ehehe.
i love you for writing this. it's legitimately helped haha.
i've had a few of these guys recently and i just DONT know how to get rid of them.
and my friend's right... it's because i'm too nice and lead them on by being nice. gotta stop that.
thanks!
@northernskylights - LOL
@elelkewljay - Whoa! Heck of an expensive phone to blow out!
Hahaha nice one dare!
yes , some men are down right physco when it comes to wanting someone that isn't in to them. I must be a magnet for them . I agree that not beating around the bush and using tactics to try and lessen the blow of rejecting them is best. straight and to the point is key =)
talk about twilight. sure-fire way to lose them in 10 mins!!!
#9 - Yeah, that's for sure to work! :P And I think young girls should have some kind of taser/pepper spray/whatever is legal, because there's a lot of weirdos out there.
I made the mistake of giving someone my number once, even though I didn't want to date him (and have a boyfriend), and he called/texted me for two weeks. I felt obligated to since I had my phone in my hand...next time I'm just saying I don't give out my number to people I don't know.